SUCH BEAUTIFUL WORDS

Someone has written these beautiful words. One must read and try to understand the deep meanings in them. They are like the Ten Commandments to follow in life all the time. Here goes ~~

1. Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble; it is a "steering wheel" that directs us in the right path throughout life.

2. Do you know why a car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the rear view mirror is so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on.

3. Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4. All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either.

5. Old friends are like Gold! New friends are Diamonds! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a base of Gold!

6. Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

7. When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

8. A blind person asked St. Anthony: "Can there be anything worse than losing an eyesight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision."

9. When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them; and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10. WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES; it takes away today’s PEACE.


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Who knows, it could brighten someone's day...

May Your Dreams Comes True..

Raul Pelagio

Plant a Seed

A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.

Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different. He called all the young executives in his company together..

He said, "It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.. I have decided to choose one of you. "The young executives were Shocked, but the boss continued. "I am going to give each one of you a SEED today - one very special SEED. I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you.
I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one
I choose will be the next CEO."

One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.

Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.

Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still
nothing.

By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn't have a plant and he felt like a failure.

Six months went by -- still nothing in Jim's pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn't say anything to his colleagues, however, he just kept watering and fertilizing the soil - He so wanted the seed to grow.

A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.

Jim told his wife that he wasn't going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at
the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful -- in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his youngexecutives.

Jim just tried to hide in the back. "My, what great plants, trees and flowers you have grown," said the CEO. "Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!"

All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, "The CEO knows I'm a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!"

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed - Jim told him the story.

The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, "Behold your next Chief Executive Officer!

His name is Jim!" Jim couldn't believe it. Jim couldn't even grow his seed.

"How could he be the new CEO?" the others said.

Then the CEO said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead - it was not possible for them to grow.

All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new
Chief Executive Officer!"

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

* If you plant hard work, you will reap success

* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation

So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.

Think about this for a minute....
If I happened to show up on your door step crying, would you care?

If I called you and asked you to pick me up because something happened, would you come?

If I had one day left to live my life, would you be part of that last day?

If I needed a shoulder to cry on, would you give me yours?

This is a test to see who your real
friends are or if you are just someone to talk to you when they are bored.

Do you know what the relationship is between your two eyes?

They blink together,
they move together,
they cry together,
they see things together,
and they sleep together,
but they never see each other;
....that's what friendship is..
Your aspiration is your motivation, your
motivation is your belief,
your belief is your peace,
your peace is your target,
your target is heaven, and life is like hard core torture without it!

Thanks for following my blog..

May your dreams comes true..

Raul Pelagio



Inspirational Quotes

Another good story -must read (The Blind Girl)

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she's blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He's always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend. One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, "now that you can see the world, will you marry me?" The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend is blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying. "Just take care of my eyes dear."

This is how the human brain changes when our status changes. Only a few remember what life was like before and who's always been there even in the most painful situations.

Life Is A Gift Today before you think of saying an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive - Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around.

Life is a gift, Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, And fulfill it.

God bless you all..

Raul V. Pelagio

The Pencil & The Eraser

This is for all the parents out there.....


Pencil: I am sorry....

Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.

Pencil: I'm sorry ... coz you get hurt bcoz of me. Whenever I made mistakes, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

Eraser: That's true! But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad. :)


I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational.

Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil.

They're always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller (older, and eventually passed on).

Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they did for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying or sad.


In view of this, let us reflect and contemplate on our life ... the present, the past and the future ...
and let us offer this prayer ~~

Lord, thank You for allowing me to undergo trials, which You know I can handle. I offer back to You the trials I face today, for I know that Your love alone is more than enough for me to overcome them;

Lord, please teach me to believe constantly that bcoz of Your love, I will have answers to all my problems; and let my doubts disappear to be replaced by hope -- in Your love for me;

Through difficult times, Lord, please teach me to trust in You. And, please help me to surrender my life to You each day ... my will to Your will, so that Your glory may be made more manifest in me, as your humble servant.

This I pray, through Christ, our Lord. Amen.


Raul Pelagio

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.
Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let’s take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges — get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.



1. I will be happy once I have ____ (or once I earn X).
Problem:
If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car, or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.

Solution:
Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are... right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.




2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem:
We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool ... as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution:
Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now ... not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.



3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem:
First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful ... in different ways.

Solution:
Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too ... in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.



4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.

Problem:
Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution:
See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.



5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem:
Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution:
Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.


6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem:
Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution:
See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger ... in disguise.



7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?

Problem:
This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots.
Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution:
Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something.

Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success.

Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.



8. Your work sucks. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem:
I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.

Solution:
Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time.
Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.



9. Insulting People Back

Problem:
If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution:
Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.



10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem:
If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution:
Turn your thinking around ~ you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.


Learned a great deal from this, hope it's not yet late to absorb and try to apply, if applicable ...

Raul V. Pelagio

6 Simple Rules of Power

Foreword
There's one thing that differentiates happy and successful individuals from misfortunate, unsuccessful individuals. It's all in the attitude and personal power.
We can't all of the time control the conditions that we chance upon, however what we may control is how we respond to them.
In that way we may make fresh selections and take a different action, therefore bringing ourselves toward success.
A positive mental attitude for life success is utterly crucial and provides great personal power.
Once you have an extremely positive attitude you'll have a greater expectation of success and more personal power.
It forever appears that we get what we anticipate, and when you anticipate success and power that is precisely what you'll wind up discovering.
To help you formulate the sort of mental attitude that will bring success and personal power, I wish to share this book with you to help you accomplish better results.
6 Simple Rules Of Power
Discover how you can apply 6 simple habits that will change your life forever

Chapter 1:
Successful Mental Picture

Synopsis
Forge and emboss indelibly on your brain a picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this image doggedly. Never let it disappear. Your mind will look to formulate this image. Never consider yourself as bombing; never question the reality of the image. That's most serious, for the mind forever attempts to complete what it envisions. So forever picture “success” regardless how badly matters seem to be going at the present moment.

See It
To formulate your personal lucidity or purpose you have to do 3 things. 1st, define what success entails for you. 2nd, produce an intense mental image of you as a winner. 3rd, clear up your personal values. When you define what success entails for you personally, I advise that you formulate a well-defined mental picture of you as a success. This picture ought to be as graphic as you are able to you make it.
Example of formulating personal lucidity from the expert..
When I was twenty, I called forth a picture of myself as a successful speaker, personal coach, business consultant and writer. I worked from my home base -- where I composed and formulated the programs I pitched at customer locations. This office had a floor to ceiling wall of books that I may utilize for easy reference. It likewise had a typewriter and a huge, clunky phone. Personal computers and the net were not around in the early 70's.
I likewise viewed myself having one to one discussions with senior leadership in an assortment of organizations, carrying on education and team building sittings in conference rooms at their businesses. Astonishingly, a lot of the individuals in the sessions were having cigarettes. I had really graphic images of standing before big audiences at sales meetings performing talks. I visualized myself signing a book I had composed at a bookshop. I likewise viewed myself on planes, traveling to my speech production, training and consulting gigs.
All of these graphic pictures came true. My office is very much like I had envisaged it -- except it has a 2 personal computers and a cell, not a typewriter and clumsy telephone set. The hordes of books are there -- brimming over. I've composed 20 of the books on the shelf. Individuals don't have cigarettes in my training and team building sittings any longer and I utilize slides rather than handwritten charts, but the big things are the same as I'd thought. I've talked to audiences all over the world. I've racked up many frequent flyer miles.
I'm living my aspiration -- in large part since I dared to aspire to it a long time ago. What's your aspiration? Can you produce a graphic mental image of it? I advise that you take a little time for yourself. Ask and answer these 3 things:
Where do I wish to be ten, twenty and thirty years from today?
How will it look and feel when I get there? How will my life be?
Ask and resolve any additional questions that will help you formulate a clear-cut, intense mental image of your success. This isn't day dreaming. It's true work. You're contriving your future in your mind. Keep this impression with you as you set about your daily business. Every once in a while, enquire of yourself if what you did that day got you any closer to your image of success. In that way, you'll be holding your dream alive -- and moving towards your destination.
The horse sense point here is easy. Successful individuals specify what success signifies to them. Then they formulate a compelling and clear-cut image of their success. They utilize this mental image to help hold their aspirations alive and to keep moving forward to what they wish in their lives and vocations. Producing an intense mental image of your success isn't day dreaming. It's true work -- the work of contriving your future, so you are able to take the steps essential to produce it.

Chapter 2:
Cancel The Negative

Synopsis
If a negative thought bearing on your personal power springs to mind, intentionally voice a positive thought to invalidate it.

Thoughts
Most individuals utilize affirmations, meditation, visual images or additional exercises to bump off negative thoughts so they may create fresh things in their life (that may be money, success, love, and so forth.).
Regrettably, with 95% of our thoughts being damaging, and most of these living in our subconscious mind, it may take a lot of years to produce alteration in our lives. You have to be able to discover the blocks that are holding you back so that you are able to produce the success you wish in your life.
It put up be really hard to shift your focus when it's something that's really crucial to you, or if the trouble seems overpowering.
Weight loss is a good example of this. When you feel plump, you can't get lean. How come? Well, while you feel plump, you tend to get blue or depressed, then you might consume more or you might sleep more to battle the blue feelings you're having. If you center on feeling plump (the trouble), chances are you'll draw in more of that to you and acquire even more weight.
On the other hand, if you center on the resolution (acquiring more physical exercise, eating sounder), you'll be prompted to take action and you'll draw in the support and tools you require to accomplish your goal.
So by switching your focus from the trouble to the resolution, you will draw in what you wish into your life rather than what you don't want.

Chapter 3:
Deal With Difficulties

Synopsis
Don't develop obstacles in your imagination. Devaluate every alleged obstruction. Downplay them. Troubles must be examined and efficiently dealt with to be done away with, however they must be seen for only what they are. And therefore not be amplified by fear thoughts.

Problems
Troubles can't be avoided in day-to-day life. When we don't have troubles, the human mind has a propensity to produce additional issues. To deal with troubles that come up we shouldn't seek to quash them. We have to look at them as a chance to better our nature. By defeating problems we may beef up our will and learn useful lessons.
Here are a few hints for addressing troubles:
1. Do not feel misfortunate
The existence of an issue doesn't mean we ought to feel misfortunate or shamed. True, the trouble might be the consequence of our previous errors, but, regretting the past times won't help us deal with the subject at hand. In addition to that, rather often troubles come up through no fault of our own. To feel shamed for issues produced by other people is to make a double error.
2. A Chance not a trouble
A great deal of the time what we see as a trouble is truly a chance to learn something or get over a particular weakness. We'll never ask in issues into our life, but if we're able to have the correct mental attitude we recognize that by defeating them we may learn something rather useful.
3. Remain resolute
If the issue is stemming from others, we must be staunch in not allowing the issue to enter into us. We ought to attempt to build up an invisible roadblock to stop the negativity getting into us. For instance, if other people are very strained, they'll subconsciously try to pass their anxieties onto us. If we're not solid these anxieties will move into us. All the same, if we may detach ourselves from their concerns and stress we'll stay untouched.
4. Envisage the resolution.
If we simply center on the issues facing us, we'll become dejected and our focus will be on the magnitude of the trouble. In that frame of mind it gets to be an uphill battle to work out the issue. To subdue a problem we have to center on the resolution. Consequently, we have to retain a positive mental attitude and take pragmatic steps to figure out a solution, bit-by-bit.
5. Alter our mental attitude
Rather often particular issues keep duplicating themselves. These troubles are the result of our inside and outer mental attitude. For these recurrent issues we have to produce a fresh view. It's insufficient to attempt and prevent these issues or react with our habitual response. If advantageous take the advice of others. This will help you to step back and view the issue from another angle. The crucial thing is to alter our mind-set. Issues only go away when we subdue the problem at the root. The root cause is our idea and position.
6. Use humor
Humor may be an effective counter poison to a lot of issues of the mind. If we have little concerns and headaches attempt to smile and laugh. – It might just be the most beneficial answer.

Chapter 4:
Be Yourself

Synopsis
Don't be in awe of others and try to imitate them. Nobody may be you as efficiently as you are able to. Remember likewise that most individuals, in spite of their confident appearance and behavior, are a great deal of the time as scared as you are and as in question of themselves.

Be You
Being yourself is observing you, as an individual - finding out how to express yourself and be pleased with who you are. For a few individuals, it's finding out how to love yourself, for other people, it's not shrouding who you are or altering things about you to fit in.
Specify yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't understand, know, and live with yourself first. It ought to be your basic goal to discover this. Attempt to take time for yourself and chew over your life and selections. Attempt to consider what sort of things you would or wouldn't like to accomplish, and behave accordingly; discovering through trial and error helps more than you may believe it does. You are able to even take personality quizzes, but be heedful to only take what you wish from them and not let them specify you.
Work at accepting errors and selections you've arrived at; they're complete and in the past, so there's no use howling over spilled milk. Quit caring about how individuals perceive you. The truth is, it truly doesn't matter. It's unimaginable to be yourself when you're caught up in questioning "Do they think I'm comical? Does she think I'm plump? Do they believe I'm unintelligent?" To be yourself, you've got to release these concerns and just let your conduct flow, with only your thoughtfulness of other people as a filter — not their consideration of you.
Besides, if you alter yourself for one person or group, a different individual or group might not like you, and you may go around in a vicious circle trying to please individuals; it's altogether pointless in the long run, and it leaves you depleted. All the same, if somebody you trust and regard critiques facets of who you are, feel free to gauge(truthfully) whether or not it's precise rather than living with or dismissing the critique categorically.
Be truthful and open. What have you got to conceal? We're all fallible, growing, learning humans. If you feel ashamed or speculative about any facet of yourself — and you sense that you have to shroud those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to change over your alleged defects into individualistic oddities. Be truthful with yourself, but don't bash yourself; utilize this doctrine with other people, likewise.
There's a difference between being decisive and being truthful; learn to watch the manner in which you say things to yourself and other people when being truthful.
Loosen up. Quit worrying about the worst that may occur, particularly in social spots. So what if you founder? Or get food in your teeth? Discover how to laugh at yourself both when it occurs and later on. Turn it into a good story that you are able to share with other people. It lets them understand that you're not perfect and makes you feel more relaxed, also. It's likewise a magnetic quality for somebody to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too earnestly!
Acquire and express your individualism. Whether it's your feel of style, or even your style of talking, if your favored way of doing something wanders from the mainstream, then be pleased with it... unless it's destructive to yourself or other people. Have a rich day. Trust in who you are. If you're forever working to be somebody you're not, you'll never be a pleased individual. Be yourself and demonstrate to the world you're pleased with the way you are! Nobody understands you better than you and that's how it ought to be. You deserve to be your own best admirer, so begin trying to work out how you are able to do that. If you had to be with yourself for a day, what is the most amusing sort of individual you could be, while still representing yourself? What is the most beneficial version of you? Trust in this theme and utilize that as your beginning point.
Love and live with yourself as you are today. Abide by your own flair. The basic thing a lot of individuals do is copy other's actions as it appears like the more beneficial route to fit in, but truly, shouldn't you stick out? Sticking out is really difficult, yes, but you want to try to avoid donning other people's views of you. Even if it's not something you'd commonly do; that's what representing yourself is all about. Perhaps you like to sit outdoors on the deck under an umbrella in the midst of the rain, perhaps you've different ideas of matters, instead of others, perhaps you like strawberry cake rather than the basic chocolate cake, whatever you are, admit it. Being dissimilar is utterly beautiful and it draws individuals to you....

Chapter 5:
Get Counseling

Synopsis
Acquire a competent counselor to help you comprehend why you do what you do. Learn of the beginning of your inferiority and self-distrust feelings which frequently start out in childhood. Self cognition leads to a remedy.......

Seek Help
Ask yourself a few questions:
 Are you seeking group or individual therapy? Couples therapy? Family therapy? Are you seeking short, solution-focused therapy or long-run, in-depth work?
 What issues do you wish to work at? What do you desire to achieve? Do you have a taste as to what therapeutic mode (like verbal therapy, art, movement...) you wish to work in?
 Do you favor a male or female therapist? Does it make whatever difference to you?
 Are you available during the day or do you require evening/weekend sittings? What locations are handy for you?
 What fee can you give? Do you require a sliding scale?
Arrive at a list of potential therapists and their numbers:
Talk to acquaintances, loved ones and other people who might be able to refer you to a therapist. Other references for discovering a therapist are ads, referral services, and local schools and the net.
Get hold of the therapist you wish to understand more about. Let them know you're shopping around.

A few therapists will speak with you on the telephone and you are able to acquire a sense of them and their work. Other people want to talk on the telephone briefly and then start regular sittings. Still other people offer one session at no charge.
Whatever the therapist's initial policy, you are able to help yourself get a great match. You've the right to ask questions. A few questions you may ask are:
 What is your preparation?
 How long have you been in practice?
 How much do you charge?
 When do you visit clients?
 How soon may I acquire an appointment?
 Have you ever been in therapy?
 What troubles do you work with?
 What do you specialize in?
 What experience do you have with the trouble that I wish to work on? Can you assist me? If not, will you refer me to a different therapist?
 How would we work together on subjects?
 How long will it call for?
As you arrive at your conclusion, believe your gut instinct! No sum of training, paperwork or government ordinance may ever substitute for your own personal feel of what is most beneficial for you.
Do any of these therapists appear to be correct for you?
Do you feel safe with him/her? Do you feel you may connect with and work with this therapist? Is he/she easy with you and your issues?

As you go along in therapy, speak to your therapist about your advancement. You've a right to ask questions and to get replies to them.
You, the client, are forever in charge of your operation. You've the right to turn down what your therapist is providing you. You've the right to change therapists and/or styles of therapy.
Intimate conduct and/or contact between therapist and client are NEVER accepted behavior.
Outside relationships like business, friendly relationship and socializing with your therapist are likewise not acceptable as they produce roadblocks to the therapeutic procedure.
Do you sense that you're relating with your therapist? Feelings of uncomfortableness are to be anticipated in therapy, however feeling unsafe with your therapist is a major cautionary sign to you.

Chapter 6:
Develop Self Respect

Synopsis
Make a truthful approximation of your own power, and then raise it 10%. Don't get narcissistic, but acquire a wholesome self-regard. Trust in your own god issued powers.

Self Regard
Self-regard is key for a dandy life. If we lack self-respect we'll be insecure and endeavor to be person we're not. To develop self-regard means to cultivate the self-assurance to manage whatever life casts at us. The following are a few ways we may better our self-regard. Remember, self-regard comes from an inner belief and not an egoistic feeling of superiority.
1. Be truthful to yourself
There's great social pressing from parents, work and society to become a particular individual and to accomplish particular things. It's a pressing difficult to detach from. But, a true self-regard only comes from being truthful to our inner calling. It's crucial you've faith in your own values and remember what is significant to you. Just because others believe you ought to act in a particular way, doesn’t mean they're correct. Everybody needs to abide by their own path. Even if other people don’t honor your decision it's crucial that you do. Simply ask yourself whether you come into the world to delight Tom, Dick and Harry or inhabit your own life?
2. Discover how to manage critique
We're tender beings. Nobody wishes criticism and when we're picked apart, either forthwith or indirectly, we feel badly about ourself – even if the critique isn't warranted. To sustain a sense of self-regard, we have to learn how to manage criticism. Don’t take critique personally. View it from a separated perspective. Perhaps it's untrue, in which case we ought to ignore it. If their is a little truth, we may utilize it to grow our character. But, it's crucial not to take critique too personally. Just because we're not really good at a specific task, doesn’t mean we have to lose our self-regard.
3. Look nice without being a slave to style
Our visual aspect is crucial. It may provide us confidence or it may make us feel clumsy. Take care of your visual aspect; dressing smart for the correct occasion gives us self-assurance. At the same time, we don’t wish to be the slave of style trends. Dress for your own advantage; don’t dress in the anticipation of pleasing other people and getting complements.
4. Prevent green-eyed monster
Jealousy of others success is a basic way of losing our happiness and self-regard. Jealousy is merely envy of others success. We feel misfortunate that we can't enjoy their success. Occasionally it may even lead us to criticizing the other individual. If we abide by this path of jealousy we'll decidedly lose our sense of self-regard. When we're constantly equating ourselves to others, we're stating our self-regard depends on being better than other people. But, the fact is, there will always be a few individuals more successful than ourself. The trick to persistent self-regard is to be happy through others success. We ought to never feel that others success in any way decreases our self worth.
5. Respect other people
If you've no regard for other people, how can you have self-regard? Self-regard means we have an inner assurance and inner confidence, but this isn't a confidence built upon superiority. It's the wrong approach to attempt and feel better by putting other people down. If we seek the good qualities in others, it's easier to remember the great qualities in ourselves.
6. Never detest yourself
We make errors, we might do the improper thing; but we ought to never put ourselves down unnecessarily. If we're not heedful we begin bitterly regretting matters and even disliking ourselves. We ought to never detest our self, it's very destructive. Listen to your moral sense, but, don’t be too hard on yourself and feel loaded down with guilt.
7. Forgive
Forgive other people and forgive yourself. Don’t live in the past tense, but, go on from past errors and hard situations. If your mind is absorbed with issues from the past, you'll forever feel guilty and despicable. Don’t let your self worth be determined by past errors.
8. Be selfless
The way to self-regard isn't through a distended sense of pride; this is a fake type of self-regard. We might think that the praise of others supercharges our self-regard, but, really this praise brings on a vulnerable ego. If our self-regard is based on the praise of other people then our self-regard will be very flimsy. Self-regard shouldn't be contingent on the praise of others; it ought to be independent of others praise.

Wrapping Up
Keep going following up on your goals, desires, and ambitions with ambition, trust, and a positive mental attitude.
Outfitted with these traits, nobody can fail. A positive attitude for success will conquer all and provide you great personal power.

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YOU MAY POISON YOURSELF ACCIDENTALLY

In Taiwan , a woman suddenly died unexpectedly with signs of bleeding from her ears, nose, mouth & eyes. After a preliminary autopsy it was diagnosed death due to arsenic poisoning death. Where did the arsenic come from?

The police launched an in-depth and extensive investigation. A medical school professor was invited to come to solve the case.

The professor carefully looked at the contents from the deceased's stomach, in less than half an hour, the mystery was solved... The professor said: 'The deceased did not commit suicide and neither was she murdered, she died of accidental death due to ignorance!'

Everyone was puzzled, why accidental death? The arsenic is of the U.S. military for carrying rice seedlings H Gao. The professor said:
'The arsenic is produced in the stomach of the deceased.' The deceased used to take 'Vitamin C' everyday, which in itself is not a problem. The problem was that she ate a large portion of shrimp/prawn during dinner.
Eating shrimp/prawn is not the problem that's why nothing happened to her family ever though they took the same shrimp/prawn. However at the same time the deceased also took 'vitamin C', that is where the problem is!

Researchers at the University of Chicago in the United States , found through experiments, food such as soft-shell shrimp/prawn contains a much higher concentration of - five potassium arsenic compounds...

Such fresh food by itself has no toxic effects on the human body. However, in taking 'vitamin C', due to the chemical reaction, the original non-toxic - five potassium arsenic (As anhydride, also known as arsenic oxide, the chemical formula for As205) changed to a three potassium toxic arsenic (ADB arsenic anhydride), also known as arsenic trioxide, a chemical formula (As203), which is commonly known as arsenic to the public!

Arsenic poisoning have magma role and can cause paralysis to the small blood vessels, "mercapto Jimei"??, inhibits the activity of the liver and fat necrosis change Hepatic Lobules Centre, heart, liver, kidney, intestine congestion, epithelial cell necrosis, telangiectasia. Therefore, a person who dies of arsenic poisoning will show signs of bleeding from the ears, nose, mouth & eyes.

Therefore; as a precautionary measure, DO NOT take shrimp/prawn when taking 'vitamin C'.

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Life

In Life, there are moments when you miss someone so much that you would only fulfill your dreams by holding that person tight in your arms.

When a door of the happiness is closed, another opens, but us, we continue to look at the closed door and we do not attach importance to that which we have just opened.

Do not trust appearances, they are often false.
Do not interest your self in the wealth; It will disappear.

Seek somebody who communicates with you in laughter’s, because on laughter could turn a sad day into a joyful day.

Dream whatever you desire to dream go wherever you wish.
Seek whatever you desire.

Because life is unique by how you shape it.
The lucky ones inevitably do not have best of the best.
They seek simply the best of what they see on their journey.

The most beautiful future will always depend on the need for forgetting the past.
You will not be able to go from the past in life as long as you will not have overcome the errors of the past and all that hurt you.

Live the life in full, and always smile in spite of difficult times.
Share this message to those who count on you as I did.
To those who mark your life…
To those who made you laugh when you really needed somebody….
To those who show you Encouragement when you are down.
To your friends.
To those who just passed by you….
To those who look up to you for encouragement.
To those who need you at their side.

Never loose the opportunity to give sunshine to the day of a person who needs a few encouraging words.
Life does not amount in breathings.
But to the moments which cut you the breath.

Life is Beautiful!!!
Specially with a friend like you.
May every moment of your life be filled with joy.

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Don't Let Go of Hope

Hope gives you the strength to keep going
when you feel like giving up.

Don't ever quit believing in yourself.
As long as you believe you can, you will have
a reason for trying.

Don't let anyone hold your happiness in
their hands; hold it in your own, so it will
always be within your reach..

Don't measure success or failure by
material wealth, but by how you feel. Our feelings
determine the riches in our lives.

Don't let bad moments overcome you. Be
patient, and they will pass.

Don't hesitate to reach out for help; we all
need it from time to time.

Don't runaway from Love, but towards love;
because it is our deepest joy.

Don't wait for what you want to come to you.
Go after it with all that you are; knowing
that life will meet you half way.

Don't feel like you've lost when plans and
dreams fall short of your hopes.

Anytime you learn something new about
yourself, or about life, you have progressed.

Don't do anything that takes away from
your self-respect. Feeling good about yourself
is essential to feeling good about life.

Don't ever forget how to laugh or be too
proud to cry. It is by doing both that we live
life to the fullest.


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A STORY OF APPRECIATION

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, “Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, “Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, “Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: “Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, “please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what appreciation is. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, “This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

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The curtain rods

She spent the first day sadly packing her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases. On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things.
On the third day, she sat down on the floor in the dining room by candlelight, put on some soft background music, and feasted on a pound of shrimp, a jar of caviar, and a bottle of Chardonnay.

When she had finished, she went into each and every room and deposited a few half-eaten shrimp and caviar, into the hollow of the curtain rods. She replaced the end caps on the curtain rods, cleaned up the kitchen, and left.

When the husband returned with his new girlfriend, all was bliss for the first few days. Then slowly, the house began to smell. They tried everything, cleaning, mopping, and airing the place out. Vents were checked for dead rodents, and carpets were steam cleaned. Air fresheners were hung everywhere. Exterminators were brought in to set off gas canister, during which they had to move out for a few days, and they even paid to replace the expensive wool carpeting. Nothing worked!

People stopped coming over to visit. Repairmen refused to work in the house.
The maid quit. Finally, they could not take the stench any longer and decided to move.

A month later, even though they had cut their price in half, they could not find a buyer for their stinky house. Word got out, and eventually, even the local Realtors refused to return their calls.

Finally, they had to borrow a huge sum of money from the bank to purchase a new place. The ex-wife called the man, and asked how things were going. He told her they were selling the house but did not tell the real reasons. She listened politely, and said that she missed her old home terribly, and would be willing to reduce her divorce settlement in exchange for getting the house back.

Knowing his ex-wife had no idea about the smell, he agreed on a price that was about 1/10th of what the house had been worth, but only if she were to sign the papers that very day. She agreed, and within the hour his lawyers delivered the paperwork for her to sign.

A week later the man and his girlfriend stood smiling as they watched the moving company pack everything to take to their new home ... including the curtain rods.


Lesson of the story: The person who thinks with the head above the shoulders always wins. The one who thinks with the head below the waistline loses.

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WET PANTS

Come with me to a third grade classroom..... There is a nine-year-old kid sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet. He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened. It's never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it. When the girls find out, they'll never speak to him again as long as he lives.

The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, "Dear God, this is an emergency! I need help now! Five minutes from now I'm dead meat."

He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.

As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water. Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy's lap.

The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, "Thank you, Lord! Thank you, Lord!"

Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of sympathy. The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out. All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk. The sympathy is wonderful. But as life would have it, the ridicule that should have been his has been transferred to someone else - Susie.

She tries to help, but they tell her to get out. You've done enough, you klutz!"

Finally, at the end of the day, as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, "You did that on purpose, didn't you?" Susie whispers back, "I wet my pants once too."

May God help us see the opportunities that are always around us to do good..

Remember.....Just going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in your garage makes you a car.

Each and everyone one of us is going through tough times right now, but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that only He can. Keep the faith.

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